Sex makes us feel good.
Its a fact. If done right sex is a great highlight of our time on
this tiny spinning world. But last week was the first time for me
that sex actually felt rejuvenating.
Last week was a time of
many firsts for me, it was my first time in Spain, my fist holiday
away from my family and my first bear event So for me it was a bit of
an adventure. I spend several nights cruzing at the beachside party
at night and flicking through the scruff app by day to find various
hookups and they were all fun, but there was one that stood out to me
for the effect it had.
For the rest of the
evening riding the dopamine high that comes with good sex, and the
days after I felt like I had been renewed, recharged and rejuvenated
from the experience. It gave me a feeling that nourished me, which I
hadn’t had in a good long while.
The experience itself
was one hot sweaty affair and filled in my brain now in the 'great
sex' folder. I had spent this holiday with my ex, whilst we are
separated, was very much my partner in crime this holiday and one
third of the event in question. It was late in a bar and we had ended
up chatting to a Swedish gentleman who had an interest in
bodybuilding. Now unlike a lot of the musclebears than hung around
that week he seemed refreshingly devoid of attitude and a nice guy
And had a even nicer body. When it came to a point where all three of
us knew what we wanted we made are way to a cabbin in the darkroom
and things got extremely sweaty.
Now it still seems odd
that something which felt good for my soul happened in a plywood box
but it gave me something that I needed. It was an encounter that
whilst happening I became completely absorbed in. i'll admit that
this is rare for me and in the process of sex my mind will plan ahead
and even wander to the to do list for the day waiting for after the
hookup but not this time. All my normal worries and to dos slipped
completely from my mind and I was able to involve myself completely
in the salty, panting, rough fun with two hot guys. This sense of freedom
stayed with me long after and really marked the start of my mental
holiday long after my physical holiday began.
It shows to me that sex
can be more than just a bit of fun done right. Whether done with a
friend or lover or even a stranger it can be a transformative,
rejuvenating experience providing us with a solution to a deeper need
within us.
oh and if your wondering we had the Swedish gentalman over the next day. he was considerate enough to bring hsi own handcuffs :-)
oh and if your wondering we had the Swedish gentalman over the next day. he was considerate enough to bring hsi own handcuffs :-)
